In the first encounters, the narcissist assumes the role
of the strict, ostensibly benevolent, but sadistic parent ("tough
love") - or the hurt, petulant, entitled, self-centred, and sadistic child.
As a parent, he is having sadistic incest. As a child, he is having masochistic
incest. The inevitable cheating by the partner punishes the parent and
mortifies the child, fostering personal development and growth as well as a
In the narcissist’s relationships OF ALL KINDS (romantic,
business, "friendships"), there are five phases: grooming, shared
fantasy, interstitial I (two options: exit or persist), mortification or
anti-fantasy, and interstitial II.